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telophase ([personal profile] telophase) wrote2014-04-24 09:49 pm

State of Camp Telophase

To start off, I am now OK. And now that that's been said, my latest news is that I've had a miscarriage and ended up in the ER on Tuesday night due to pain, and throwing up my pain medication. But! as I said, I am OK now (as OK as you can be in the circumstances!).

Much more detail, and possibly way TMI under the cut.



Also, I'm typing this on a Bluetooth keyboard paired to an ipad while sitting on my bed, so I'm likely to typo even more than usual.

Anyway, as I said, I had been 8 weeks pregnant, but it was not to be, it seems, and I started spotting on the 14th. Went in to the OB on that Tuesday, and again on Thursday, when it was clear that I was miscarrying. I had a decent amount of painful cramping on Friday, but nothing that I couldn't handle. The spotting turned into bleeding, and I went back in this Tuesday (the 22nd) for another follow-up.

Tuesday afternoon, I started getting very painful cramps. I took one of the hydrocodone pills I have for my migraines (with the blessing of the OB), but it didn't touch it. By the evening, I was in enough pain--and the bleeding had increased a great deal--that I called the doctor on call for the OB/GYN practice I was going to, who told me I could take 2 of the hydrocodone and 2 ibuprofen, adding that the next step, if that didn't work, was the ER for a shot of painkiller. I took them, and shortly thereafter threw up. Within 30 minutes, I'd thrown up twice more, and it was clear that the pain wasn't getting better, I wasn't going to be able to take the meds, and I couldn't even keep water down.

So Toby drove me to the ER, at a hospital that's about 5 minutes away from us. I managed to get checked in and sat in the waiting room for about 2 minutes before being called (the advantages of a slow Tuesday night, I guess!). I got processed by a nurse, then we were shown to a room, where I got to put on an awesomely flattering hospital gown and lie down on a gurney. And repeat my story about 3 more times, for each new nurse and tech that wandered in to do something. And threw up twice more, which I suppose was good in that it showed them I certainly wasn't lying about that bit!

Eventually, one of the nurses stuck one of those things in my arm that let them take blood out and put drugs in, and after draining me of numerous vials of blood for testing, I got an anti-nausea med, and then morphine. It didn't make the pain go completely away, but at least it dulled it down to very mild.

About that time, another nurse came in and explained that she was in training for sexual assault cases, and needed to do pelvic exams on non-rape patients before she could get certified, and would I give permission for her to do that under the supervision of the doctor? I said sure, because I figure anything I could do to help someone in the future who's raped would be good. So we ended up with six people in the room during that bit--me, Toby, the nurse giving the morphine, the tech who set up the equipment, the doctor, and the nurse doing the exam. Toby was the only male. :)

After that was all done, I got a new, just as uncomfortable, experience because they needed to take a urine sample to test for infection, and they had to do it via a quick catheterization since there was too much bleeding to keep the sample uncontaminated. Let's just say I'm glad I'm not male and undergoing that.

After that, I got to be wheeled on the gurney through the halls to the ultrasound room to be prodded in more uncomfortable ways as they took sonograms to make sure everything was OK. Toby didn't get to go with me for that bit, but I have now experienced that thing you see in all the TV shows when the patient is rolled on a gurney through halls although, alas, all the doors were propped open so I didn't get to slam through double doors.

When I got back, Toby was taking care of the bill--the financial person had a cart with a computer and printer that wheeled into the exam room, and could take credit card payments right there. For you non-USAians with socialized medicine reading this, we paid a bit over $600, and that's AFTER the insurance paid for part of it.

After that, it was a lot of hangning around and waiting for test results to come back. I eventually called a nurse as the cramps were getting bad again, and she was able to give me another dose of morphine. I don't know if the cramps were worse or if it was a smaller dose, but it didn't kill as much of the pain as before. I was still able to function, though.

Eventually, about midnight, the doctor came back in and said that the tests were all fine: I didn't have an infection or anything else; the problem seemed to be that I just had a really thick endometrial lining, and my cervix was swollen, causing a lot of the pain. (Let me say that after all the poking and prodding I endured, that I now know EXACTLY where my cervix is.) I was free to go, and she gave us two prescriptions for uber-hyper hydrocodone and Tramadol, to be taken alternating and NOT at the same time, and a list of 24-hour pharmacies, as the hospital's pharmacy wasn't 24 hours. (I have no idea why not.)

So we ended up driving to a 24-hour Walgreens and getting my prescriptions. Toby reminded me to ask the pharmacist about the morphine I'd been given, if I could take the meds at the same time as it or had to wait. The pharmacist said the Tramadol was OK with it, since it'd been a couple of hours, but not the hydrocodone just yet.

We finally got home about 1AM. I took the Tramadol and we tumbled into bed. I woke up about 3 and stayed awake for over an hour, but by then the cramps had STOPPED and I was enjoying being pain-free so much that I didn't mind. I just listened to my audiobook. I stayed home from work on Wednesday and Thursday, and will probably go in at least part of the day on Friday, as I was bored off my ass on Thursday.

Toby was awesome throughout the whole thing, sitting beside me, holding my hand, and telling me stories about his youthful stupidities to distract me. :)

I'm currently pain-free, and haven't taken any meds since Wednesday. There's still bleeding, but the miscarriage process takes a long time, and it's mild, like a not-heavy period. The original blood tests my OB did on Tuesday should be in by tomorrow, and they'll call Friday or Monday, at which point I expect I'll be arranging another follow-up so they can keep an eye on the hormone levels in my blood. I'm more worried about constipation at the moment, due to all the opiates I've had, so am eating lots of fiber and drinking lots of water.

Anyway. That was the week that was. I am dealing fine emotionally, as is Toby.

(ANd BTW, Toby just said "Be sure to tell them how awesome I was for going out and buying you pads." :) The nurses thought he was a keeper for doing that, although, as he told them, if anyone gave him shit for that he'd just say "Really? Are you 5?")

Aaaand that's enough typing. I'm going to post now.
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[personal profile] yhlee 2014-04-25 04:06 am (UTC)(link)
I'm glad nothing went worse.

Joe's been buying my pads for years. He and Toby can start a club!
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[personal profile] snarp 2014-04-25 04:26 am (UTC)(link)
Ugh, I'm so sorry. What a shitty week.

You have a good husband! Someone always has to send Dad home when Mom's in the hospital; he panics and tires her out.
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[personal profile] lnhammer 2014-04-25 04:54 am (UTC)(link)
Oh, ouch. Rest well!
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[personal profile] oyceter 2014-04-25 06:51 am (UTC)(link)
Oh man, I'm sorry, though glad you are currently pain free!
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[personal profile] qem_chibati 2014-04-25 06:54 am (UTC)(link)
I'm sorry to hear! Best wishes for your recovery.
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[personal profile] umadoshi 2014-04-25 10:50 am (UTC)(link)
I'm so sorry you went through that, and am glad you're largely feeling better now. :/
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[personal profile] the_rck 2014-04-25 11:32 am (UTC)(link)
I'm sorry for your loss.
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[personal profile] kate_nepveu 2014-04-25 11:52 am (UTC)(link)
I'm sorry to hear that you had tough medical things on top of tough emotional things, and I'm glad to hear you're better now, and I hope that you continue to recover as well as can be expected. *support support support*
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[personal profile] loligo 2014-04-25 12:09 pm (UTC)(link)
::giant hugs::
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[personal profile] camwyn 2014-04-25 01:20 pm (UTC)(link)
Urgh. I'm sorry to hear that it happened, but I'm glad you're doing better now. And that you had access to a 24-hour Walgreens because seriously, what's up with the hospital pharma.
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[personal profile] ellen_fremedon 2014-04-25 05:38 pm (UTC)(link)
I'm so sorry. I'm glad you're safe and free of pain.
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[personal profile] movingfinger 2014-04-25 06:17 pm (UTC)(link)
I'm sorry to learn that that happened, but I'm glad that you and Toby are okay.

(The bit with billing coming into your room while you were lying there---that's a little hackle-raising. Yikes.)
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[personal profile] bluerabbit 2014-04-27 08:47 am (UTC)(link)
*hugs* It's a really shitty thing to happen, but I'm glad you're doing better physically and that you and Toby are there to support each other.

You're both in my thoughts.

[identity profile] golden-bastet.livejournal.com 2014-04-25 04:10 am (UTC)(link)
Well, he *is* a keeper. For just thinking of that response.

I hope you're doing good overall. Fingers crossed that the process is quick and relatively "normal" (as normal as these things can be).

[identity profile] telophase.livejournal.com 2014-04-25 03:00 pm (UTC)(link)
Just this morning I was browsing Reddit, and someone posted this:
"Reminds me of buying feminine hygiene products for my wife when it's her lady time of the month. Occasionally, even *still*--in 2014--some cashiers will kind of look at me funny and ask, "are you buying these?"

"If I'm in a shitty mood I'll nod and loudly announce, "MY VAGINA IS BLEEDING AND I NEED MY 'ALWAYS WITH WINGS'. THANK YOU." A tall, bearded man is purchasing chocolate, Midol and pads. I don't think it should take a rocket scientist to figure out this mystery."
And thank you. So far, it seems to be progressing normally; I just want it to be OVER.

[identity profile] riofriotex.livejournal.com 2014-04-25 04:28 am (UTC)(link)
I'm so sorry you had to go through all of this, but glad you are feeling better.

[identity profile] telophase.livejournal.com 2014-04-25 03:00 pm (UTC)(link)
Thank you.

[identity profile] selenite.livejournal.com 2014-04-25 05:30 am (UTC)(link)
*hugs* I'm glad you're recovering well.

[identity profile] telophase.livejournal.com 2014-04-25 03:00 pm (UTC)(link)
Thank you. :)

[identity profile] thomasyan.livejournal.com 2014-04-25 05:50 am (UTC)(link)
I am sorry for your loss, but relieved you are otherwise ok.

[identity profile] telophase.livejournal.com 2014-04-25 03:00 pm (UTC)(link)
Thank you. :)

[identity profile] twillery.livejournal.com 2014-04-25 06:33 am (UTC)(link)
I'm sorry.

[identity profile] telophase.livejournal.com 2014-04-25 03:00 pm (UTC)(link)
Thank you.
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[identity profile] estara.livejournal.com 2014-04-25 08:11 am (UTC)(link)
Three cheers for Toby and a thousand cheers for how you're handling this - and a general boo for American Health Care, from this person from a socialised medicine country (although Sharon Lee recently had a post on how much she is now saving by switching to an Obamacare plan in Maine and still getting the medicines she needs).

I so wish you well.

[identity profile] telophase.livejournal.com 2014-04-25 03:01 pm (UTC)(link)
Thak you! I'll let Toby know. :) And I am so, so glad that we are in a financial position where this is an annoyance, but not a disaster. There are so many people out there for which that is not true, and my heart goes out to them.

[identity profile] helen-keeble.livejournal.com 2014-04-25 08:54 am (UTC)(link)
I'm so sorry to hear that you're having to go through this, but relieved that you have such a great guy to support you!

I've also had an eight-week miscarriage, though mine went somewhat differently to your experience (very fast, all over in less than two days, and not nearly so painful). Just in case you haven't been warned, there will be a point at which pads will not be sufficient, and you will really not want to be away from home - are you off work at the moment?

You may need to take some time off afterwards as well - I was off work for a week after my miscarriage due to fatigue and nausea, and I've known women who've needed to take a lot longer than that. I don't know if it's the same in the US, but over here in the UK miscarriage counts as a pregnancy-related illness so "doesn't count" as normal sick leave (falls under sex discrimination laws).

Feel free to email me (helen dot keeble at gmail dot com) if you want to discuss the unpleasant details in private!

[identity profile] telophase.livejournal.com 2014-04-25 03:07 pm (UTC)(link)
Thank you!

I hit the pads-not-sufficient point on Monday and Tuesday! Hopefully it does not return, but I've got the enormous ones that postpartum women usually use. I'm going in to work this afternoon due to extreme boredom at home, but my boss is understanding enough that I can take what time I need. I'm mostly tired right now because my sleep schedule is thorougly messed up! I couldn't fall asleep for the longest time last night, so emailed work and said I'd be in about noon.

Alas, the US is not as enlightened as the UK, but I've got plenty of sick time and vacation time when the sick time runs out, plus the ability to work from home if necessary.

[identity profile] celticdragonfly.livejournal.com 2014-04-25 01:07 pm (UTC)(link)
Oh many hugs - sorry you had to go through this. I am glad you are being well taken care of.

[identity profile] telophase.livejournal.com 2014-04-25 03:08 pm (UTC)(link)
Thank you!

[identity profile] awamiba.livejournal.com 2014-04-25 01:13 pm (UTC)(link)
Oh so sorry for your loss. *big gentle hugs*

[identity profile] telophase.livejournal.com 2014-04-25 03:08 pm (UTC)(link)
Thank you!

[identity profile] mscongeniality.livejournal.com 2014-04-25 03:20 pm (UTC)(link)
Glad to hear that you are doing okay. I'm sorry that you've had to go through such a difficult and painful experience, though.

[identity profile] telophase.livejournal.com 2014-04-25 03:49 pm (UTC)(link)
Thank you!

[identity profile] badtzphoto.livejournal.com 2014-04-25 03:21 pm (UTC)(link)
I'm sorry for your loss. Please take care.

[identity profile] telophase.livejournal.com 2014-04-25 03:49 pm (UTC)(link)
Thank you, and I will. :)

[identity profile] wyrdness.livejournal.com 2014-04-25 04:06 pm (UTC)(link)
Having never been through that I have nothing useful to say, but I'm glad to hear you're okay. Also Toby is awesome.

[identity profile] telophase.livejournal.com 2014-04-25 04:40 pm (UTC)(link)
Thank you! :)

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